5 Steps to Choosing the Right Therapist for You

Finding the right therapist in Orange County can feel a little overwhelming and exhausting, like trying to pick someone to help you navigate your deepest thoughts and hoping they’re someone you actually connect with. And let’s be honest… the stereotype is painfully true: therapists are notoriously hard to get a hold of. Half the time you’re lucky if anyone calls you back before your next birthday. But despite the struggle, finding the right fit is absolutely possible and it can make all the difference.

1. Start by Getting Honest About What You Need

You don’t have to know everything, but you should take a moment to check in with yourself.

• What’s making you want therapy right now?

• Anxiety? Relationship stress? Burnout?

• Do you want someone more gentle? Direct? Faith-based?

• What are you hoping to get out of therapy (coping skills, an ear to listen)?

There’s no wrong answer. Clarity just helps you avoid getting lost in options.

2. Use “Psychology Today”

It’s the easiest place to start your search; It’s kind of like online dating but for a therapist. Filter by your city, what you want support with, types of therapy, and your preferred availability. Read the bio of the therapists your are interested so you can get a sense of how they are. Save 3–5 therapists who feel aligned with and fill out the contact form. Psychology Today, in my opinion, is the most streamlined way to find a therapist.

3. Try to Look Beyond the Credentials

A therapist being licensed or pre-licensed doesn’t matter as much if you really connect with them. Therapeutic rapport is a key reason why therapy works!

Pay attention to:

• Their tone on their website

• How they talk about clients

• Whether they feel warm or formal (depending on what you like)

• Whether their values feel aligned with yours

Therapy works best when the connection feels real

4. Check for Practical Fit (This Really Matters)

The “logistical stuff” affects your ability to stay consistent.

Ask yourself:

• Do I need evenings or weekends?

• Am I okay with telehealth, or do I prefer in-person?

• Is their office close enough that I won’t dread the drive?

• Does insurance matter, or am I okay with private pay?

The right therapist is someone you can realistically show up for.

5. Ask to Schedule a Free Consultation (and Pay Attention to How you Feel)

This is very important to see if you and the therapist would be a good fit for one another. This is your time to ask the questions that are important to you.

Ask simple things like:

• “Have you worked with people dealing with what I’m dealing with?”

• “What does a typical session with you look like?”

• “What is your therapeutic style?”

But most importantly, notice your body:

• Did you feel rushed?

• Did you feel understood?

• Did you breathe a little easier talking to them?